*insert cliché about time here*

Being busy does not equal success.

635917038311632174-371695616_best_Time_-_good.305184206_std

It isn’t good to constantly be busy, despite the fact that society pushes the idea that being busy equals success. The more we juggle in our lives, the more successful we are seen in the eyes of others. However, when we dig deeper into this topic, we can see that constantly having a checklist of things to do does not equate to success.

Speaking as a very busy college student, who has probably bitten off more than I can chew, I can easily say that I have fallen victim to this very issue. I am guilty of occasionally doing some of my checklist items at half effort, with only the intention of checking the box. Although it may be hard to admit this fact, I’m sure that many of you are guilty of the same offense.

The real issue here, though, is that the value of our time has become lost in the whirlwind of checklist items that we all have to complete on a daily basis. Time isn’t money and there are enough hours in the day.

Time is relative; but in our culture, we have objectified time. Time doesn’t always have to be running out, though. We can still make the most of our time- be productive and successful all while valuing the seconds, minutes, and hours that we are allotted.

If we weren’t always so busy, we would be able to value the things in our lives much differently. We would place more value on our time with others and more importantly so, our time with ourselves.

I’m sure that you’ve all heard the whole “take time for yourself because its important” bit. While it may seem cheesy, that statement is very true. How can we be kind and helpful to others if we do not even allow time to value ourselves?

Your ability to make a change in the world and to spread love to other humans begins with your ability to serve yourself. Make the time, it’s important.

 

-K.Thurgood

Advertisements

Help others to help yourself

We have all heard the saying “we must give love, to receive love. Some may brush this off thinking it is just another corny quote of failed self help. However it is actually beneficial to ourselves and the community and here is a list why:

  1. When you help someone, they are more likely to help you.
  2. Karma- when you are a good person, good things seem to happen to you.
  3. Helping others is a great confidence booster.
  4. The simplest gesture can make an awesome impression.
  5. Hiring managers look favorably on volunteer work and many acceptance committees use it to separate similar candidates.

“No one has ever become poor by giving”-Anne Frank

I think in order to live a longer, healthier, and fulfilling life you should do everything your doctor tells you to do, and then go out there and share your time and love with people who need it.

-Colleen Knell

All Big Things Have Small Beginnings

With the current refugee crisis at the forefront of international news, it’s easy to get stuck in the feeling of hopelessness, the pit in your stomach that screams this is just too big, too hard, too overwhelming to overcome. Yet despite the political debates and the death tolls rising, people are still working together to give refugees a chance of survival, revival, and new life.

In Matt Mellen’s article Sustainable safe havens for refugees, he points out that one in three Britons has contributed to help the refugee situation, and more than 1.8 million households in the UK would offer a refugee shelter. Individuals across the UK have shown immense support for refugees by offering supplies and shelter in the form of caravans and tents to Calais.

With the long winter months soon approaching, an online platform similar to AirBnB offers refugees rooms to rent in the hopes to accommodate the individuals. Known to the german community as ‘Fluchtlinge Willkimmen’ the platform offers refugees temporary shelter while they are waiting to be resettled. Even more impressive is the Sustainable Safe Havens organization. This response to the refugee crisis incorporates sustaining farmland, offering opportunity for the refugees, and immersing the individuals into a supportive community.

While it’s our default to look at the big picture, or in this case the big crisis, sometimes the best antidote to tackling a situation is to take the first small step.

People may believe it’s unrealistic to think the refugee crisis will be completely solved in the future, but more often than not the people who dare to think they can change the world are the ones that actually do. The key is to just take the first small step.

-Carrie Brennan

Complain-cency

When challenged with making a change or addition to my daily routine that would improve my life and perhaps even the lives of others I interact with, I decided to not complain out loud. Simple. Keep those negative thoughts to yourself, Kelli, no problemo.

“Ugh my head hurts.” I texted out to my boyfriend Tuesday morning (almost a week after making my commitment). Crap. Is that a complaint. I mean it’s kind of a fact but I am also complaining. This was the first moment since the Wednesday before that I had actively processed the words coming out of my mouth (or my phone). How many mindless complaints had I let slide. This week, I told myself, I WILL do better.

Thursday morning, “Hey, Kel. How are ya?” I opened my mouth to respond to my classmate and immediately closed it. I was about to answer “Oh, I’m tired/ busy/ stressed/ happy this week is almost over.” Instead, thinking now about how I actually was (no Friday classes, just finished a big paper, got a full nights sleep, had plans for the evening, was going to the gym this afternoon, had spoken to both my parents this morning, not sick, really good mood, weather was nice), why was I so inclined to complain when asked about how I was. I am good. I AM PRETTY DARN GOOD. Why was a complaint about to be the first thing out of my mouth????

“I’m really great today, thank you for asking. I hope you’re doing well” I responded with a smile, hiding my slight, internal concern. Had I gotten to the point where I couldn’t distinguish a complaint coming out of  my mouth. Yikes scary. I’m one of the most blessed people I know, what on this earth do I have to complain about? I complain about my lack of employment, but I haven’t even graduated yet. I complain about being hungry, but I have a meal plan and money for groceries. I complain about school work, but I am fortunate enough to be receiving an education from a university that has brought me more than simply papers and tests.

I do consider myself to be a relatively positive individual, I pride myself on my ability to see the good in every situation but I still complain when I don’t have anything else to say. Because of this, I have tasked my friends with calling me out whenever they hear me say or see me text something out similar to a complaint. I am replacing my negative thoughts with optimistic ones and my complaints with praises.

Happiness comes when we stop complaining about the troubles we have, and say thanks to God for the problems we don’t have.

-Kelli Anne Louthan

Fueling Connection

 

empathy-quotes-6

 

Last week in class, we were given the task to make some kind of change that would not only benefit us but also benefit those around us. At first I had a hard time thinking about what I wanted to do. First, I thought of washing my roommates’ dishes, then I thought of buying a stranger a cup of coffee– both very kind things that you could do for someone else. Still, I felt like I could do better. I remembered a video I watched in one of my previous classes and how after watching it, my whole perspective on the way I treat people changed. I decided to do something along the lines of this video. In 3 short minutes, Dr. Brené Brown explains the difference between sympathy and empathy. So, I decided to make my mission to offer more empathy rather than sympathy to those around me. I can proudly say that over the last few days I have noticed my relationships have changed for the better!

 

Here’s the video:

 

 

All my life I thought that being sympathetic was always good….boy was I wrong! Turns out, empathy is what fuels connection and strengthens our bonds with each other.

After having a class discussion on society’s fascination with being busy, I realized that life would be so much better if we each took the time to turn off our phones & really focus on being there for each other. If we all made our focus on being more kind, genuine, and empathetic, the world would be a much better place! I think one of the reasons why there is so much division & tension in the world could be due to human race turning against each other. Humans, all around the world, are turning against each other either because of religion, political views, etc. What if, instead of turning against each other, we took all that energy and used it positively to band together?

How lucky are we to live in a world full of different cultures, customs, traditions, languages, attitudes, and beliefs… The diversity found on earth is what makes this place so beautiful & special. As empathetic beings, we need to make it our duty to celebrate this diversity instead of shutting it down. We need to fuel connection.

Being more empathetic is important for being good activists & advocates for our world.

Empathy102814.png

-Kimia

Tell me about yourself.

As I continue to apply and interview for jobs, I have repeatedly heard the question “so, tell me about yourself.”

It’s the worst.

It shouldn’t be a hard question to answer, but it stumps me every time. Why is it so hard to tell them about MYSELF?!

I don’t know for sure, but here is my theory:

I have no problem answering questions about what I am involved in and what I am doing, but can’t seem to answer questions about my being because it’s not my priority.

I have been so “busy” scheduling my days down to the hour that I have forgotten to take time for myself. I have no idea what it even means to tell people about myself because I haven’t spent time reflecting on myself.

Does what I’m involved in define me? Maybe.

But it is certainly not all that I am.

“Tell me you remember you are still a human being, not just a human doing.” – Krista Tippett

-Whitney Roberts

525,600 minutes in a year, but who’s counting?

“Taking time to do nothing often brings everything into perspective.” – Doe Zantamata

Madonna once sang “Time goes by, so slowly time goes by…” I am here now to say: Madonna you are LIAR! Especially when you’re the decrepit age of 21 and have one-month left of your college career. Days turn into weeks in the blink of the eye and before you know it you’re being forced to buy your cap and gown.

I’ve mentioned before how I am the lucky recipient of the ultimate senior schedule, with loads of free time and the 4-day weekend. But sometimes I feel overwhelmed with guilt because of the free time I have. This leads to the creation of unnecessary errands or desperately creating tasks for myself in order to let my day feel more productive, which in turn makes these precious days go by even quicker.

But you know what? Productivity just needs to take a backseat some days. Sit on the couch and watch hours of TV! Sleep in! Take a nap even after you sleep in! Why should we stress ourselves when we are in taking part in some of the best years of our lives? Taking the time to enjoy the simply joy of nothingness is crucial for our well-being, both mentally and physically. It’s time I started taking time for granted.

I’m a self diagnosed ambivert; I enjoy being social but when I want to be left alone, I’ll make sure I am left alone. Because of this quality, I’m all about the quick response to “how are you?” when I run into someone. Most of the time it’s “I’m good.” But what does it really mean to be “good”? I don’t even know what it means when I answer with it. Taking the time to do some introspection is needed. Much like taking the time to do nothing, it puts everything into perspective.

– Lauren Antilety