But forgiveness isn’t.
A wise man (shockingly not me) once said,
“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”
Perhaps that’s why it’s so difficult for some people to forgive. They haven’t built up the stamina, they haven’t toned their forgiveness muscles, they aren’t in the shape to handle something of that momentum.
In an article discussing Gandhi’s Top 10 Rules for Changing the World “Forgive and let go” makes the list. If one of the most influential people of all time believes that forgiveness is worth out while, maybe we should take notice.
I am the queen of forgiveness, sometimes to a fault. I hate confrontation, and tension makes makes me ill. So, I forgive. But do I let it go? Forgiving isn’t the hard part, for me. Accepting an apology doesn’t take years of my life. I can handle the awkward conversations that follow the “resolution” of a disagreement, argument, or betrayal. But do I actually actively take that bitterness I feel and check it at the door?
“An eye for an eye only ends up making the whole world blind.”
What a great place the world would be if we could truly forgive people for their mistakes (for being human) and actually mean it and then proceed to move on with our own lives.
I’ve read before that unforgiveness is like drinking poison yourself and expecting the other person to die.
In the light of my upcoming graduation, I’ve been trying to really live in every minute and to enjoy these last few weeks. The ability to live fully in the present involves being able to put the past in the past and move forward without resentment.
Because we can’t change the world when we are too busy holding on to something that does nothing but hold us back.
-Kelli Anne Louthan